Before having your baby, you may want to stock up on some breast pads or nursing pads. Sometimes while nursing, you’ll find that your breasts leak or are moist depending on your frequency of nursing. Breast pads will keep you more comfortable and dry. You can find disposable or reusable pads. They also come in several different shapes and are made of a variety of materials. You may even want to try a few kinds until you find the ones that are most soft and comfortable to you while also appearing invisible when inserted into your bra. You should be able to find these at most drugs stores or through many online vendors. Good luck preparing for your little one to arrive!
If you are a first-time mom creating a room or part of a room can be overwhelming. Do we need a crib, bassinet, nursing chair, changing table, swing, playpen … and what should we pay for these items? What is the most important?
You might be overwhelmed by the many products available, and your budget could be overwhelmed too! Babies can be expensive, so it’s important to keep an eye on your budget as this can go down quickly. When trying to fund all of these essential things, it might be worth looking for second-hand items. Alternatively, there are ways to try and raise money to give yourself some financial support from friends and family. GoFundMe is one of the most popular methods for raising financial help these days, so it might be worth setting one up if you’re struggling to afford essentials for your child.
When purchasing for the baby, we suggest that you start out small and purchase what you think you need for the first six months. If you have friends that have recently had a baby, ask them for help. They might even loan you a few items to get started.
When I asked a friend what was the most important thing in their baby’s room I was surprised to find that it was not anything for the baby, but a small water dispenser for the nursing mom. I kept it close to the nursing chair and made a concerted effort to drink water as I nursed. Something so simple as easy access to water really helped to make it easier to nurse and to relax and enjoy my baby at the same time.
Another handy item that a different friend suggested was a basket of soft washcloths. It really is the small things that make a difference, not the expensive high-ticket items.
You could also simplify your stash of lotions and soaps – Mother’s Special Blend is all you need to keep your belly and breast skin toned, soft and flexible. It relieves sore, chafed nipples, and is safe for your baby.
Remember, natural and simple is always best. Follow your health care provider’s advice when it comes to you and your baby, they have seen and heard it all, so don’t be afraid to ask them questions.
Forgetting things? Know that your elusive memory will improve after the birth of your baby. You are not crazy- this is normal. If you can remember just this one thing you will be ahead of the game.
Here are some suggestions for keeping on track:
- Most of all keeping a sense of humor is key and don’t forget to tell the father and your friends that you need their help. If everyone is asking how he or she can help then this is the time to reach out and let them know that your memory is spotty and gain their support and understanding.
- Recruit your friends to remind you of important things. Have them call you or text you a half hour before important appointments, or set alarms on your phone with the appointments spelled out (don’t think that you will remember what the alarm is about).
- Make lists and put them in your purse, on your bathroom mirror and next to your bed. You can’t have too many reminders at this time.
I have a memory story to share with other moms. I’m a good knitter (cable stitches, and interesting switches of color in my patterns) and overall I like to challenge myself with a complicated design. Well, I selected a very easy baby blanket pattern that I could do in my sleep. And it looked like I did it in my sleep. I ripped it out countless times, dropped stitches and forgot where I was in a simple three-step pattern. I knitted the blanket at least 6 times and it’s still not perfect. But, the love knitted in is infinite and I have the perfect baby. The imperfect baby-blanket is now packed in a box awaiting the next perfect baby.
Let go of perfection in yourself and others, life is more about the small moments that add up to the joy that you can share with your friends and family.
Mother’s Special Blend is a good reminder for scheduling joy. Give yourself permission to pamper yourself and loved ones with Mother’s Special Blend and the simple pleasure of massaging hands, feet, bellies and breasts as you await your perfect baby. Remember natural and simple is always best. Follow your health care providers advice when it comes to you and your baby, they have seen and heard it all so don’t be afraid to ask them questions.
Besides your growing baby-belly, your feet may also be getting larger. That is because the pregnancy hormone that loosens the ligaments and joints in your pelvis also loosens the ligaments in your feet, causing your bones to spread. It’s nice to know it’s the hormones and not the extra pounds of baby weight, right?
Here are some supportive ideas to help you as you change:
- Purchase a comfortable walking shoe. It may be a half size or even a whole size larger than you’ve been wearing.
- Slow down, walk more carefully, and avoid pushing yourself to exhaustion.
- Pamper yourself with a pedicure and play with a crazy color of polish. (Look for a non-toxic one )
- Raise your feet above your head for 15 minutes a day.
- This is a time to ask for mommy time from your partner. Ask for a foot massage using Mother’s Special Blend as a massage Oil for those feet, and totally relax.
As your breasts get larger you will need some extra support. You may even grow out of the bra that you bought just last week. That bra will come in handy and will fit again in the future. You will come down in size after breast-feeding and need to be fitted again. The likelihood of a woman’s breast size changing after going through pregnancy and breastfeeding is very high as when women have decided to stop, they may find that their boobs don’t look the way they used to. Some may choose to go to New York City’s plastic surgeon, Dr. Joshua Hyman for a consultancy on what can be done. Sometimes a reduction can help immensely, or a lift procedure. Either way, when the change happens, it may have an impact on your confidence and the clothes that you decide to wear. There are many options that you can consider if you feel uncomfortable with the way your breasts look, like looking at something similar to this breast augmentation in Baltimore as they will be able to offer you options that can help you get your confidence back again. If you decide to have this procedure done, you will definitely need to buy new bras. Some women may find that their breasts return to their normal size so this is also a good time to find help in proper fitting. Many department and specialty stores have trained staff that can help you as you go up and down in size. Don’t buy a lot of bras in any one size, but arrange them in your drawer by sizes so you can find the one that fits today. You could also head on over to sites like Rank & Style for a rundown on the top 10 different strapless bra variations that could offer your breasts extra support while still remaining comfortable, some of the options are also very flexible meaning if your breasts change size in a matter of weeks, it shouldn’t be a problem.
Getting around town with your new addition to your family can be challenging. New babies are so little and need special care in the car, in a snugli, or sling. Make sure to support the babies’ head in any situation. For car seats they make car seat head supports that you can throw into the wash. They are well worth the investment for your babies’ comfort and you can find them for under $20.
A sling is a wonderful way to walk around with your little one and keeps them right up against your chest. The sling continues into toddler years. Slings come with diagrams of many different ways to position your baby to toddler in comfort and a sling frees you up to use your hands. A sling supports your posture too. Make sure the support around your back is wide and padded for your comfort.
Other recommendations for you and your baby:
- Take your baby out of the car seat when you are parked. You will be giving your baby air, connection to you and best of all, divesting yourself of 15 pounds that you do not need to carry around. You will get adept at getting your sleeping baby to and from the car without putting unneeded strain on your back.
- Simple umbrella strollers are great to keep in the car for Dads, baby sitters and grandparents too. Find the ones that you can open and lock together with one hand, pushing a button just like a traditional rain umbrella. Make sure it is light- weight and the handles are adjustable.
- If your baby is struggling to sleep, then you might want to look into sleep training. There is nothing worse than sleepless nights, for you or your baby; we’ve all been there.
- A sunshade for your car window is a good idea. These shades are sold by QuikSnap and will help to keep your baby cool and protected on car journeys.
- A large blanket or quilt can be put down anywhere. Keep 2-3 in your car for impromptu park picnics, or play dates.
Remember natural and simple is always best. Follow your health care providers advice when it comes to you and your baby.
Pampering yourself with a daily massage of your tummy, buttocks, thighs and breasts with Mother’s Special Blend Skin Toning oil will provide you with deep moisture and tone your skin to help prevent stretch marks.
No matter how much you don’t want them, stretch marks are likely to occur during pregnancy. Your belly will grow to accommodate for your child and there’s nothing you can do about this. Unfortunately, there will be some women who worry about their growing stomach and will try ways to get smaller and smaller waist during pregnancy, namely through corsets or waist trainers. You should completely avoid these and embrace them in postpartum and appreciate your bump during this time. Fortunately, your stretch marks can be lessened using the Mother’s Special Blend.
The earlier you apply Mother’s Special Blend to your skin during your pregnancy the better. Genetics has been shown to play a part in the development of stretch marks and scars. Even if a mother or sister has gotten stretch marks, Mother’s Special Blend has prevented them in related family members for the past 35 years. Many, many testimonials attest to positive results.
It also helps to minimize them should you get stretch marks.
How to apply our skin toning oil and how often:
- Enjoy cleansing with the rich lather from Our Mother’s Special Blend Cocoa Butter soap. Gently towel dry and then apply a small amount of Mother’s Special Blend oil and massage in a circular motion into your belly, thighs, breasts and buttocks while your skin is warm and moist.
- Don’t forget this regimen after the baby is born. Your skin will be contracting back to your normal shape and your skin will need the same support as it did when expanding. Both products are safe for you and your newborn.
- You might feel the need to bare that beautiful belly on the beach but don’t be tempted. Scarring and darker pigmentation is accelerated with sun exposure. Keep your skin under-wraps or under an umbrella and use a safe sun screen of no more than SPF 15.
Remember natural and simple is always best. Follow your health care providers advice when it comes to you and your baby.
For naps and bedtime, it’s all about routine.
With naps it’s good to have a short routine, 5 to 15 minutes is all you need – nap-time should be a bit different from the night-time routine, so your baby can learn to distinguish between the two. Some babies nap a longer time but then are up at night.
For the short morning or afternoon nap start by:
- nursing, or feeding the baby
- check for a dry diaper
- take off shoes and any restrictive clothing
- find the favorite stuffed toy or blanket
- play a special song
The five things above should be all it takes to get your baby to settle. Of course a regular naptime is helpful in triggering the natural rhythm. Many babies and toddlers think that they are going to be missing something when they go down for a nap. All family members should help with their own quiet time at naptime.
At night the stakes are higher because you need time with other family members, yourself included. You want your baby to stay asleep for the whole night, or at least most of the night.
So begin with the all important:
- bath and playtime ( laughter is good exercise )
- massage your baby using Mother’s Special Blend (see earlier , our blog on baby massage)
- pajamas that are the right size and weight
- sing, read a story or play a different series of nighttime tunes
Natural and simple is always best and wherever you can, simplify. A baby grows fast and things are always changing, try to pay attention to how special these moments are. Always follow your health care providers advice when it comes to you and your baby.
All the best for your nesting adventure,
Mother’s Special Blend
If you are a new, first-time parent, that first long bout of crying can be unnerving. These tips could help you get back the cute little cooing baby you brought home. (Remember- never shake or bounce your baby.)
- Is the baby hungry? Maybe they are in a growth spurt and need more food?
- Check for a wet diaper. Yes, check again, even if you checked a few minutes ago.
- Look for any restrictive clothing or scratchy tags
- Provide a favorite stuffed toy or blanket
- Babies sometimes fight going to sleep. They will fall asleep eventually if they need sleep.
- Gentle burping will stimulate burps or passing gas.
- Massage just one small area (think hypnotize… right between the eyes was my go-to spot).
- Play music at a level that the baby will need to stop crying in order to hear.
- Umbrella stroller time! Secure baby comfortably. Walking back and forth in just a 10 foot space will relax and calm baby to sleep. You can tilt the stroller back a little, just make sure there is a small folded soft blanket under baby’s head in case it tips back to the floor by mistake, especially if a small child is doing the pushing.
Colickly babies are the most troublesome. They are so uncomfortable. A teaspoon of fennel tea can help greatly. Try putting the baby on your upper legs on their stomach, then on their sides, left side first. ( always support their head) Otherwise, leaning them against a shoulder and rocking usually works to soothe the baby.
Other things could be at play that you need to be aware of, such as constipation, teething, upset tummy, or fever. You will intuitively know something is not normal for your baby. If you are concerned don’t hesitate to call your healthcare professional or take the baby to see your doctor. Always follow your health care providers advice when it comes to you and your baby. Remember to always baby proof your house, it goes without saying really and it should be one of the first things you do as you’re getting ready to bring your little one home with you, but creating a safe small area for them to be able to roam around in without being in danger allows them to explore and you could find they may cry less, you could look into Best For Mums recommended baby gates for a review on 12 of the best baby gates at the moment.
As the mom, you are in charge of your nursing success. Here in the states we send you home with your baby within 24 hours of the birth with little coaching on nursing. It is no wonder that moms get frustrated and give up on what can be a natural, enjoyable experience for both mom and baby.
If you are a new first-time mom getting ready to nurse for the first time here’s a few things to keep in mind(and handy):
- Be patient. The first milk is full of colostrum and is so good for the baby’s immune system.
- Make sure that you have eaten and are relaxed before starting.
- Play relaxing, soothing music.
- Have a comfortable chair, water and/or your favorite tea, and Mother’s Special Blend skin toning oil within hands reach.
Now that you are ready to begin–be confident and visualize that you will be successful. If available, make arrangements to have a lactation nurse visit you and coach you. Listen and trust your instincts, you will know what works for you and what does not. Again, be patient.
In the beginning when your milk comes in (it is called “letting down”) your breasts can become engorged, sore, and hard. A warm cloth compress is soothing, and expressing a little milk can relieve any discomfort. Use Mother’s Special Blend to massage your nipples and make them soft and pliable. Wipe off any excess oil and encourage your baby to seek, find and suck. Go slow. Remember Mother Nature makes this wonderful experience possible for you and your child.
If you are having trouble producing enough milk flow, eating watermelon and lots of it, believe it or not, will make more milk for you. It is a whole natural food and will not harm you or the baby. Don’t give up. You are beginning a new relationship and it is always a surprising challenge that is wonderful to experience. If your breasts get sore, massage with a little Mother’s Special Blend before and after, always wiping off the excess before nursing. If your breasts are very sore, a warm bath is helpful and relaxing and you can express some milk into the tub water, which will relieve the pressure, and you’ll enjoy a milk bath at the same time!
Nursing your baby is a special time for you and your baby. Enjoy the wonderful moments and time together as it will be gone soon enough. Either you or your baby will decide when. If returning to work, many moms express their milk for feeding the baby in their absence. It is easy to do with the equipment available today. Sometimes the baby will decide when to stop nursing. At 6-8 months when baby is introduced to food and can hold a sippy cup or even at a year or so when they start walking, are common ending times.
With a few simple tools and the food your family is already eating, you can create your baby’s menu of natural foods. Breast milk, or formula, is all the baby needs for nutrition the first year. The added foods are getting the baby ready for their future meals and the social nature of eating with the family.
When can your baby start on solid foods? Your doctor can help you with guides to your baby and their needs. Generally your baby’s birth weight needs to have doubled and they need to be sitting up with hands at the ready. Once you get the go ahead, start slowly. Rice cereal mixed with breast milk or formula, whichever your baby is drinking already, will help introduce your baby to a new texture and taste. Keep a log as you introduce new foods–one thing at a time.
Choose organic foods whenever possible, and be sure to wash and skin fruits and veggies. Introduce one spoon of new food at a time (if others in your family are allergic to a food avoid it until much later). Never just stop giving your baby food after the first try, or they could develop an allergy to that particular food.
Using a small spoon will help with portions. No sugar or salt is needed at this early stage and process the food so that it is smooth and runny. (Think applesauce with a small amount of water added.) Offer solids at breakfast, lunch and dinner to get the baby on your schedule.
Here are some foods that you and your family can eat, and with just a fork or hand blender you can make them the right consistency for your little one.
- Carrots, Beets, Potatoes, Spinach
- Apples, Apricots, Avocados, Bananas, Pears
- Grains and cereals (No sugar)
Cook the family’s food without spices and pull out a small amount for baby, then season for your family. Use a fork and mash or use a hand-held blender that you can rinse under running water.
Offer your baby water to drink when starting to introduce solid food. A sippy cup with handles containing an inch or two of water is a great way to have baby learn to be independent.
Expect a mess and feed the baby with a bib that you can get from somewhere like bibado and in clothes that are easy to toss into the wash. Always have a stack of clean cloths or soft paper towels or tissues to wash baby after eating. This is a time for other family members to help. Focus on the whole family enjoying a special time with the new baby.